FEAR OF REJECTION

 

Have we ever observed in our surroundings how much people are stressed about the word "REJECTION"? No sugar coat, but it's a bitter reality of society that one can easily reject the other person's perspective, wish, believe, stance on something just because that person is saying something that is against your opinion or ideas. Life is not difficult, but sometimes our own companions make it unbearable.

Rejection is not wrong. Sometimes it gives us new directions towards betterment, but the fear of rejection is stressful and, in numerous cases, it can destroy our mental health completely. But in what cases, fear of rejection harm us? It can be seen in all disciplines of life. For example, a young fresh graduate goes for an interview for a certain position with full energy but the interviewer rejects his or her just because of lack of confidence or looks. We all know how much our society is obsessed with skin color, English language, brands. These are all secondary or tertiary things. The first priority of judgement should be his or her education and working abilities. Another rejection we all faced once is the ignorance of opinions if we are not in power. It has been observed frequently that fear of rejection can damage many lives at certain points. The fear about how the other person will react to your perspective, thoughts, creativity, values and so on. The ignorance does not just come from people in practical life but also from our loved ones when we fail to convince them about what we want, what we feel, what are the dreams and goals we have set for ourselves.

The fear of rejection is reality and everyone of us should accept this to get over it. This is a very debilitating fear that significantly influences your daily choices, decisions, and actions. It is acceptable to disagree with someone's school of thought, but it should not be allowed to misbehave with anyone or let down anyone or make them uncomfortable by having a difference of opinion. 

Once we give regard to the other person's ideas or suggestions, we will start growing in a positive way. Even as an individual, we should think that another person's reaction is nothing but just a difference of opinion. Fear of rejection is not the natural psychology of human life as it grows with times when we interact with different people. We get close to the people we love of admire, we started over explaining them about our opinions but we have to understand that talk to people only when they are willing to listen us. If we show extra efforts towards anything unnecessary, people starts avoiding us. This will make a person an over thinker. The lack of self-confidence creates self-doubt and it can immediately change anyone's life in a negative direction. People started avoiding social gatherings, any public meetings, when people left their own family functions. The person starts assuming negative and illusive thoughts and observes everything in a negative direction. At certain points, people start comparing themselves with others' lives. But the acceptance of anything is the first step towards change. Once you accept that somebody's opinion is creating problems in your daily routine, you will come out of it. To gain your freedom back, you just focus on yourself and by acknowledging your own achievements, and giving value to your own journey, you will get your confidence back. And once you get it back, nobody will let you down at any stage of life.